When Sue Wilhite experienced health issues, she knew that her stressful career was a major factor, and saw how many women were also being impacted by their high-pressure careers and responsibilities. As she pursued and experienced healing through different complementary modalities, she kept the most effective practices to incorporate into her coaching program.

In this episode we discuss

• The power of addressing the unconscious to facilitate complete healing
• Biofield Tuning, a sound healing modality
• How thoughts, feelings and beliefs have impact on your energy
• The influence of engrams on our reactions and behaviors
• What patterns of self sabotage may be misguided forms of self “protection”
• Releasing the power of other people’s judgements to step into full potential
• Taking a lighter approach to clearing trauma
• Why “good science” is open to questions and always evolving based on new evidence

Learn more about Sue Wilhite and her coaching programs at http://sweetsoundofsuccess.com/

And collect her free resource, “Get Rid of Negative Thoughts in 3 Steps”

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Susi Vine: Welcome back. I am so happy to have you with us today. For my conversation with Sue Wilhite, Sue had to endure a health issue in the form of an ulcer. She realized that these types of illnesses are common in the corporate world and especially in successful women because of their high pressure, careers, and responsibility.

She became aware that successful women feel stalled and frustrated with their careers because of emotional residues that are holding them back. Sue has made it her life mission to make sure that successful people get off there. Yeah. But, and this word Smith has a lot of great little areas for us to explore.

I’m so excited to have you with us today. So thank you for joining 

Sue Wilhite: me on this. Well, thank you, Susi. I am so glad that we got together and we can have this wonderful chat. Yes. 

Susi Vine: And hopefully we can constrain ourselves. This might be a multiple episode conversation once we really get down into. The potential impossibility, but I’d love to hear a little bit about how you came from these earlier iterations, your own health experience.

And now this toolkit that you have available to help women and men. I imagine if they ask nicely when they start getting stuck along their path to 

Sue Wilhite: success. Yeah. Thank you. So you know, this, this is called happy, fine, right? So I want to let you know that. I wasn’t always happy. I’m I’m sorry to say. One of my nicknames is miss positivity, positivity, and and I try to look at the bright side of everything and I’ve had.

Long, dark nights of the soul. And one of them came when I was a very, very successful in my career. I became I got into the it world and weirdly for a woman who had a degree in comparative literature. I ended up falling in love with coding and programming and got really good at it. And in six years I was it manager.

I went up the ranks. I was, you know, operators, stuffing stuff into printouts, into cubby holes, and programmer and systems analyst and database designer and system designer. And I T manager. And as it manager, As well as all of the rest. I mean, one of the reasons I was promoted let’s be real. It was not necessarily because of my coding abilities, although that was a very big deal, but it was also because my focus was always on making people’s lives better through the programs and databases and systems that I was creating.

That was my whole reason. If I could let somebody. Go home early because they didn’t need to take two reports and try to manually put them together or summarize them. Oh God. The idea of going through pages and pages and 10 key. Oh, it makes my head hurt. It’s horrifying to me. And so if I could have somebody run a report that goes summary, they get a figure.

They can go home. That was. That was absolute joy. And with the joy came a lot of pressure to do that and do it well and do it right. And deal with the inevitable company politics of which I’ve got to say. I managed to avoid some of the more toxic things and there was still company politics that I got to deal with.

And so I ended up with. And I, the description I’ve I came up with is that I have a volcano going off in my belly 24 7. And it was, it was one of the worst experiences. And I finally broke down, went to a doctor, had horrible tests and they put me on drugs, which I never wanted. Aye. Aye. Aye. Aye. I’m not anti pharmaceutical, but the idea of being on a drug for the rest of my life, what’s no, there was, if I tried to, you know, I had to take the pill every 12 hours and if I took it at 1205, the volcano was erupting.

And so I didn’t see any way out of this until a friend of mine invited me to a hypnotherapy.

And frankly, I thought she was a little crazy. She’d been talking about this hypnotherapy stuff and she’d been going to these classes and she’d been talking about how these, these wonderful things were going on and these discoveries and self-awareness that she was doing. And I’m like, yay. 

Susi Vine: It does not 

Sue Wilhite: compute.

It does not compute that. It’s all a bunch of hooks. Well, I have. And there was a program on PBS that came on every so often. And it was a woman named pat Collins, the hip hypnotist who had eyes like Tammy Faye and this beehive hairdo and this blue and gold and purple caftan. And she did hypnosis shows on stage where people collect like chickens and ate their shoes.

And you know, all kinds of this is what I had in my head. I’m not going to go click like a chicken. I’m sorry. I’m not going to this demo. He’s like, no, no, no. This is not what that’s about. This is about healing and I went, okay. I have an ulcer healing is okay. So I went and volunteered to be the demonstration.

Person victim. And in about an hour and a half, he had demonstrated five or so different techniques. And by the end of the evening, I had no more ulcer.

Wow. Not never again. Did I take one of those pills really? A bigger burden, a real eye-opener a real, eye-opener what they call a convincer and I went, okay, I want to do this. This is, this is real. This works, this I I’m going to do this. So I went back to work and said I’m giving you 18 months. Notice I’m going to take training for a year and establish my practice for six months.

And. And that’s what I did. And I took every class in hypnotherapy. That was a local school that I took classes from. I took everything that they had, they were associated with what was called the national Guild of hypnotists. I went back east to their conference. I signed up with other instructors to take other classes.

I did everything. And I quit my job and continued my focus of making people’s lives better. And over the years, my whole journey and quest has been, what technique can I use that would help people get through whatever it is that’s getting in their way. So that they can have a better life, more enjoyable life, a fuller life, an epic life, so that they can be more of who they really are.

And that’s my, that’s my whole focus. That, that, that is why I do anything. And if it doesn’t work, I mean, I call myself a utilitarian. If it doesn’t work. I’m not going for it. And just saying over the course of many years, I have encountered just about every technique there is on the planet. There’s probably a few that I haven’t come across.

You know, the various shamonic techniques from various countries around the world. The various hands-on healing techniques from various cultures from around the world. The variations on those techniques, people have had it on EFT NLP and, and everything in between the whole alphabets.

I’ve I’ve probably trained with it, or I have experienced it, you know, some practitioner working with me and, and going, oh, okay. And if it was good, I wanted it. You know, it’s like, okay, give me that, that, that works. And so now what I do is a technique pulled biofield tuning and biofield tuning is a sound healing technique that uses tuning for.

To clear up what I call emotional residue that lives in your system. This is going to get into a whole technical thing. So, Susie, did you have any questions about anything? I just said, cause that was a whole brain dump. Well, I, I 

Susi Vine: just love hearing the process of discovery and you know, in what. Try to share.

I try to, while I introduce concepts that could be considered woo come from a grounded approach. And so what I really love about your experience is you gauged everything yourself first. Instead of it doesn’t work for me, I’m not going to spend time on it. Certainly wouldn’t recommend it to other people.

So I think that it’s even more powerful when from these. Scientific or logical points of view. We start to see so much power and possibility in these. And so I love the growing, as you said, there’s always like nuances and new variations on modalities. And I’m familiar with quite a few in sound healing, but the potential there is so exciting, especially given our energetic properties, which.

Science is finally catching up to a point where it can validate so much of these woo theories that we’ve been contemplating for a long time. So I’m really excited. I’m, I’m, I’m all in, and I’m sure audiences intrigued at what this biofield tuning is 

Sue Wilhite: about. Yeah. Yeah. So physics and medicine finally got together and had lunch and.

What they discovered is. And especially when they got away from partly away from the mechanistic individual system paradigm that had been running medicines. For a really long time. I blame Rene Descartes. Bless his heart, wrote a great essay, ruined medicine for hundreds of years in the Western world.

And it’s only when we encountered you know Chinese medicine and arithmetic systems that work just fine. Thank you very much. That took a systematic of the systemic approach. That the whole system is involved, not just the kidneys, not just the heart, those two work in synergy together. And you can’t have one effected without the other.

And so now that medicine is beginning to get this, oh, it’s a whole thing. Attitude. One of the things that they discovered is that the brain, the heart and the gut surprisingly. Put out a weak electrical field, electromagnetic field around the body. And if you don’t believe me, look it up on Google. It’s been proven a gazillion times now.

You can, we have EEG to hook to our brain, which detects the, the electrical, the electronic, or sorry, the electric impulses that are going on in our brains and our thoughts. The heart has its own electric impulses. That’s an EKG. We haven’t figured out what the gut one is. They don’t know one of those little things they attach to your gut and get it.

But they do know that it puts up an electrical field. To get there. All of those put out an electromagnetic field that surrounds your body 360 degrees is top bottom. And in fact, it looks a little bit like an apple. It’s got a little bit of a divot at the top and a little bit of a dividend at the bottom, but it surrounds you.

And as it turns out, this is makes my programming very hard. This is a data repository. This is where your experiences live. Not in the body that can be injured or broken or caught or amputated or something like that. You know, the brain condense contains most of the index. To this massive data collection field that we have out here and what it’s collecting surprise or thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, strongly held thoughts, beliefs, and emotions live in this field.

And they get written into the. So your brain and your heart and your gut are putting stuff out and it is going okay, put it back into the cells. The cells are being influenced by this. This is why people like Louise hay and other folks who who talk about the affirmations that can affect your body.

You have emotions living in your body that come from this outer. This is really cool. This is really, really cool. And it’s the reason why it takes so long for affirmations to work. 

Susi Vine: Huh. So for all of the I’ve tried affirmations and they just don’t ring true for me. We can start getting to the root of it.

Sue Wilhite: Yes. Because you have to train your brain to put out a different frequency. Strongly held frequency to change the one that’s already stored. And that takes an enormous amount of work because the brain is highly efficient and it creates things called Ngrams, which you can think of as like fiber-optic.

And whenever you have a thought, that thought is related to a bunch of other thoughts that reinforce that original thought. So when you think of something, let’s say okay, we’ve got, we’ve got this big game coming up. I say football, you have an entire cascade of associated thoughts that are all know.

That’s associated with football. Maybe you’ve been to a game. Maybe you’ve been to a bunch of games. Maybe you’ve never been to a game. Maybe you hate football. Maybe you used to play football and you’ve got the sensation of having the ball in your hand of being tackled. Maybe you’ve got the smell of a stadium in your, in your head or the experience of watching on the couch and having your friends with you.

When I say football, all of those to. So there’s what mall. So if you want to change your feelings around football, you got some heavy lifting to do. And that’s just, we’re not talking about trauma, which ends up being a very strongly held thought and belief because it completely wrecks and angry. And that you had that you were saying.

Right. You just broke that and grim completely. If you have any kind of trauma. And the more that, that in Graham gets broken, the harder it is to put back together. So if you’re trying to deal with trauma and you’re doing an affirmation that says I am safe, I feel loved. I feel comforted. You got to love it.

Susi Vine: Yeah. True. Not true. Not for me. 

Sue Wilhite: Yes. Yes. And so it takes work to do that on your own.

But wait, there’s more,

what biofield tuning does is changes it at the root. It releases the energy of those thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that are stuck out here in the field. So they don’t remember. In your brain, your heart, your gut, the rest of yourselves in the system. And it uses sound vibration to break up these things that are, that are tightly wound together as signals, bricks them up and allows that energy to go out and be more useful.

Utilize somewhere else in the system, 

Susi Vine: because we have a lot of other uses for that energy. We don’t 

Sue Wilhite: need those right in that field. Yes. Yes. I’ve had people go, oh my God. I think I just lost 15 pounds because they just felt so much more energized. I’ve had people go, oh, did you change the lighting in the room?

When the light actually went down because I was working on the late afternoon. The sun actually gone down and they went, wow, it’s so much brighter in here.

I’ve had people have spontaneous healings. I can’t promise that I’m not, I’m not up for that, but people have had things in their body spontaneously heal. I had one client who just wanted to. Deal with some motive, some emotional residue that she had and all of a sudden found herself eating more healthfully without even trying.

Again, it wasn’t something she was after. She just wanted to deal with something that was going on in her life. And she said, I suddenly noticed that I’d had this bag of potato chips in my cupboard for over two weeks. And that never happens in my house. 

Susi Vine: Again, not interconnection. We don’t recognize where those impulses, those urges and cravings come from, but they’re looking, they’re seeking a solution.

Yes. And when there’s a resolution, you don’t need those bridges 

Sue Wilhite: or gaps anymore. Exactly. And it works for, you know what? One of my, my focus is is women who have stalled out in their careers. And it’s because there’s something that’s going on that they can’t make themselves do whatever it is. The next step is they have a thought that, and this happens to everybody, but this is, this is really, really telling when they have a thought about something that would move them forward.

And then they forget about.

And then they have that thought, oh, I should really do this. And then they don’t, they forget about it. Oh, I should really do this. They write a note to themselves. They get distracted. What had happens over and over and over again. Yeah. That’s there’s something else going on. Oh, 

Susi Vine: I have no experience with that sort of thing happening at 

Sue Wilhite: all.

I’m sure 

Susi Vine: no one can relate to that going back through a list or a notebook and saying, oh my gosh, that was brilliant. And I wrote that down three months 

Sue Wilhite: ago. Ah, selective memory. Yes. Well, it’s, it’s really fun because here’s, here’s the other way that I describe it. This is another universe. Absolutely universal experience.

Have you ever been on your way out to go somewhere and you know, you left your keys on the counter or, you know, you left your keys in a particular place and you can’t find them and you go tearing up the entire house or the office, or you’re you dump out your purse, you dump out your pockets, you dump out every.

You cannot find it. You’re looking under, under the pillow. You’re looking, you’re looking everywhere. You can’t find it. You go look, go out to the car, look in the windows is leave the keys in there. You can’t find it. You come in and it’s sitting on the counter, right? Yup. That is what it’s called a negative hallucination.

Mm. Isn’t that fun. I love this concept. Your brain literally deleted the light, reflecting into your eye and refuse to process it. Your, I saw those keys on the counter and your brain said, Nope, we’re just filling that in with counter. And we’re not going to see that.

Susi Vine: Lots of people right now are saying, 

Sue Wilhite: oh, oh, that happened. Yes. It’s not necessarily fairies or gremlins or ELLs or all the explanations that I’ve heard, the way that you deal with it is you stand there and you close your eyes. You take a deep breath and you think of something else.

You don’t want the keys. You think about something else? I don’t care what it is. Preferably positive. I like thinking about brilliant sunrises or, you know, roses or babies or something like that. Baby goats are always a favorite. And then you open your eyes and you’ll more than likely 99% of the time.

You’ll be able to see the keys that are right now.

Well, that’s just, I beg your pardon. 

Susi Vine: I said that’s a powerful takeaway 

Sue Wilhite: already. Yeah. Right? Because you’ve just reset your brain from whatever it was doing to make you delete those keys. You were in a mindset. Of something that your brain interpreted as I need to not find those keys because otherwise Susie is in danger, so I’m going to delete them.

So you’re not going to go off and do those, whatever it is. So you have to think of something else, preferably positive so that your brain can go, oh, okay. No danger anymore. Oh, there look, those are the case.

Susi Vine: Amazing. And so I’d love to know a little bit through the people that you’ve been working with and helping. What are some of the top challenges that you find them coming with? Obviously, getting stuck on the way to success is one of them, but I feel like there’s a lot of ways in which these can materialize.

Sue Wilhite: So a lot of times what I see is something called two seconds.

And two syndrome is it’s, it’s an interesting concept and we don’t realize that we’re doing it and we do it all the time. And particularly women do it. Many men do men have a different version of it, but women have I’m too old. I’m too young. I’m too fat. I’m too thin. I’m too blonde. I’m not blonde.

Or I’m too brunette or I’m too red headed or my skin’s too light. My skin’s too dark too. Right. And what is awful is that there are people in their lives that have probably told them that there are two something, right. I’ve always been too talkative.

I’ve always been too enthusiastic. I’ve been too much for people. And once I realized about two syndrome, I went, oh, okay. They can’t cope for me. They’re not, they’re not my peeps. They, they, they can have that judgment. That’s theirs until they are willing to. Have me in all my glory. They’re not my deeds.

It’s okay. It’s fine. There’s 7.5 billion people on the planet. Half of them are probably not people that I can or will ever deal with. It’s just the way of being, but Hey, I’ve got three and a quarter billion people.

So some of them have got to want to play. Right. And that’s how I look at it. It’s yes. It’s serious. Trauma is serious. I have had my share of trauma. I can go through the whole litany of traumas. They’re they’re nasty. And by the way, no, buddy’s trauma is better or worse than anybody. Else’s everybody’s trauma is their trauma and it’s true.

It sucks. It hurt. It was bad.

And I choose to play with trauma rather than attack trauma. I want to invite trauma to come out and play, which lightens it just enough that we can possibly. Do something to let it go. One of my clients last year in the pandemic, she came to the realization that she’d been carrying around a burden for a really long time.

And the pandemic kind of sharpened her focus on, you know, what, I’ve carried this for 40 years. I don’t need to carry this anymore. I need to go out and really have a life and not. Freaked out by this burden of having been a sex slave for 10 years.

That’s a 

Susi Vine: big point of clarity, right? Resolution. That’s the word I’m looking for? A resolution to 

Sue Wilhite: come to? Yes. And her life changed over the course of six biofield tuning.

I didn’t do any counseling. I didn’t do any coaching necessarily. We had some dialogue in there where mostly what I was doing was supporting her in having the feelings that were coming up and the memories that were coming up and then we’d clear them. And the emotional residue would be drastically reduced.

To oh my God, that really sucked. I don’t ever want to do that again, rather than I’m a Gora phobic and I can never go outside because I don’t know what somebody is going to do to me.

How powerful stuff. Yes. Powerful.

On the letter side, there was a client who came to me because he was frustrated in his job. This was a guy, he was frustrated his job. He was an admin in a in a clinic and it was like, I can do so much better than this. I’m bright. I’m experienced. I have tons of education I could do better than being an admin in.

And we did three biofield tuning sessions with him and he tripled his income. He went from 65 K to nearly 200 K

so 

Susi Vine: suddenly, I mean, it’s just extraordinary how that kind of shift. So for people who aren’t familiar with biofield tuning, what is 

Sue Wilhite: that process look like? It is a process it’s, it’s a whole protocol. And what I do is I use the tuning forks after discovered that there’s a process of discovery of what what’s to be worked on.

And that various for, from person to person, there’s a process of discovery. What wants to be worked on what’s ready to release right now. And then I use a tuning fork, but it looks kind of like the. There we go. I’ll try to get the whole thing in the picture. This is a weighted fork. Get it in front of my face.

There we go. This is a weighted fork and you can’t really hear it. Even if I put it up, maybe you can hear a little bit. Yes, this is 144 Hertz. And what I do is I put it in the. I put it in your, your biofield essentially. I literally stick a fork in it.

And whenever I encounter a point that gets stuck, that means there’s some resistance in the field. And I just sit there with the fork until that resistance. And sometimes in that resistance stuff comes up for the person because it’s echoing in their body. Right. It’s echoing in their brain and sometimes stuff comes up.

Not always, a lot of times it’s completely invisible inaudible insensate to the person. There’s just, okay, there’s this, there’s this thing. And then the, it will clear and then I’ll just continue to move the fork in. And we start with the outer field and the outer portion of the field. We call it the birth conception membrane.

And this is the stuff that was going on around conception through. And there’s some fascinating, I’m not going to go into it, but there’s some fascinating things that show up there. And a lot of times I spent a lot of time right in there 

Susi Vine: in that point of our experience where we don’t really give any credit for what our cells, our spirit is 

Sue Wilhite: pre yes.

Yes. And there’s a little bit of ancestral stuff that goes on. I, I sometimes pick up grandmother, grandfather. As well as parents, as well as the client. So I just, I just keep moving the fork for the field until it seems clear for, for now and integrate that energy back into their system. And they go sessions take roughly an hour to an hour and a half.

I always budgeted an hour and a half because I never know, you know, sometimes it’s like we’re done. But usually especially the first time it’s, you know, we’re going through, going through, going through, going through and it just takes time. It’s a fun thing. It really is. It’s, it’s so rewarding.

Declare stuff that people didn’t even know they had. That’s, that’s the key part for me. If you are not living an epic life, if you are not living the most that you can be, if you know that you are more than what you’re doing right now, if getting back to normal,

Susi Vine: Right there. Normal is all we can aim for. Did we want 

Sue Wilhite: that anyway? Right. Then, then there’s something that could probably be released with biofield tuning. Mm. 

Susi Vine: And I know from our earlier conversation and this might surprise people. So I’m going to ask a question that I know the answer to. So is this something that you can only do person to person in office sessions?

Sue Wilhite: No. I, I believed and, and my teacher, the person who created this, I live in Cusick believed that it must be done in person. And for many years she was developing this technique for 20 years and people would ask her, can you do this remotely? And she said, no, absolutely not. Absolutely not.

Absolutely. And then somewhere in the beginning of 2019, somebody said, okay, Eileen, you’re the scientist. You have made the statement, but have you actually proven it to yourself? Let alone the rest of us. And she went, oh, you’re right. Okay. We need to do something so that I can state absolutely. That this cannot be done remotely.

And they did the experiment and an absolutely can be done remote. They did it several times. They did it with somebody who was almost across the street, barely across town, that it from somebody where one of them was in Vermont, where I lived and in England and somebody in Vermont and in Australia, somebody in Australia to inland

distance, time and space, don’t matter. 

Susi Vine: I do love when true science. Go out to ask questions right. To disprove themselves. Yes. I think that that’s really something that we’re losing in these times that we are in, where people think an answer is an answer is an answer. I’ve got it solved. There’s other things to do.

And science is all about disproving. Are we sure that’s true. And I know from talking with other friends energy workers and healers over these last two years, when so many of us have had to move to remote. That not only can you do energy work remote late because we are all connected, but that their modalities have gotten stronger and their perception has gotten more clear, which I think is extraordinary.

Sue Wilhite: Yes. And some of it is just practice 

Susi Vine: right. Being open to that opportunity, right. That 

Sue Wilhite: potential for growth.

Marvelous. So 

Susi Vine: you’ve been working remotely with clients and, and it’s not even a necessarily a set number of sessions. It really is relevant to where they are with what is coming up? What, what obstructions they 

Sue Wilhite: have they’re working with? Yes. I, I recommend starting with three because the first one is like peeling, the outer crust.

You know, we, we get, we got the outer crust off and then we can really get to work. It’s some really good stuff. So I recommend three sessions, minimum and I’ve had clients who’ve had the three and then they sign up for the six pack. Because, and, and truthfully, Eileen says, you know, technically we should be doing this every week.

Because if, if you’ve lived any amount of time you know, if you lived past teenager-hood, you probably got some stuff in there to clean it out and there’s all the ancestral stuff to clear. So yeah, it start with three. It, it, it really is. 

Susi Vine: That’s extraordinary. So hopefully people are, have the wheels turning and they’re exploring the potential of something that they’ve perhaps never even heard of sound healing in and of itself.

But this particular field of biofield to. Yes, which I think is so exciting. And I know some practitioners here in the San Diego area, but that’s why I was so excited to connect with you. Because as a speaker and coach, I feel you’re much more active in bringing this awareness to people. And I think that once we understand what is possible, what we can be looking for seeking them doors, 

Sue Wilhite: start to open.

Oh yes. Oh yes, absolutely. Yeah. And so thank you, Susie. Forgiving. The platform, 

Susi Vine: my pleasure, my pleasure, my whole goal with this program, while I think that sometimes we get overwhelmed with possibilities and confused, and then we decide, nevermind, I’m going to stay where I am. I prefer to look at it as an opportunity for people to find what resonates with them, forgive the pun.

And if it speaks to them, they can explore further. So I love being able to have these conversations and dig a little deeper. What’s possible. Like I sat that people might not even know is an option. But I love to know in your work and explore a little bit too, because there’s so much now in, in the work that I do and helping people recognize the power of perspective and sometimes these subconscious patterns, this negativity and programming that we carry.

In our approach and perspective working through life. Is there something that someone could perhaps without sessions probably better with sessions with you but ways in which you help people learn how they can start shifting their negative thoughts to become consistently or more easily positive?

Sue Wilhite: Yes. Thank you for asking. Put down the floor. So I can talk with my hands. 

Susi Vine: I enjoyed the fork. It’s invited to any meeting.

Sue Wilhite: So I developed a three step technique for people who are having problems. Reading themselves of an unwanted thought for people who were obsessing about old relationships. You know, when you have a breakup, that’s a trauma there’s obsessive thoughts that ended up happening. They just. You think about that person over and over and over.

And so originally I called it help. I can’t get this person off my mind. I know I just pull it on triggered

and, and it’s, it has to do with that process that I talked about earlier with the engrams that get bound in the brain, when you have that thought of that person or that process or that thing, they’re all collected. And so simply shifting from negative to positive doesn’t work. It can’t, you, you just don’t have enough energy to unwind the end graph.

So what you need to do is another step in the middle step. Notice the negative thought. Yeah. That’s the hard part. 

Susi Vine: I will tell you, those are 

Sue Wilhite: hard to detect sometimes. Sometimes you don’t notice until you’re already reinforcing that in grim in a really big way. Give yourself permission to just know that you’re going to miss it the first few times.

And just when you notice go, oh, okay. I’m having this thought. So step one is notice. Step two requires a little prep and do it. Now find something neutral to think about. I like door hinge, door hinge. Nobody has any particular, unless you’re a carpenter. Nobody has any associations with door hinge. Most people just don’t.

So door hinges a really nice neutral thing with no emotional component whatsoever. And you focus on that thing with all five senses. So you think about what does a door hinge look like? What does its color? How big is. Is it, you know, is it a little thing on the back of a jewelry box or is it a big honking, you know, safe deposit box, safe deposit ball.

And is it painted? Is it brass? Is it silver? Is it stainless steel? Does it have a pin thread? W w you know, all of these things, what does it smell? Like? What does it taste like? Does it creak.

All of those things you think about that door hinge for a solid minute, bringing in all the senses, then you move to something positive. Again, you need to prep, sunset, baby laughter, baby goats sunrise, roses, puppies, whatever it is that it causes you a positive response.

And you think about that for a full minute. And what you are doing is you were breaking up the end ground and the more you do this, I guarantee a hundred percent. You will stop obsessing within a week

faster or slower. It depends on how quickly you get into the habit of noticing the thought. 

Susi Vine: Neuroplasticity is extraordinary. When I think about, you know, had I studied science instead of theater in college, the first time around, where would I be? I would be relearning everything that science has discovered in the last 20 years, because 25 years ago, we didn’t believe that the brain could continue.

Grow and develop an even repair itself. The point at which we now know that it can, we had a lid on what we thought was possible. And now this is a beautiful example of the way we can use that neuroplasticity to our advantage. And it’s just that simple. It’s recognizing the habit. It’s choosing to make a difference.

Ooh. And tearing that. 

Sue Wilhite: And. So I have that as a gift for your listeners. I’ve given you the link to go download that and have a great time with it. Oh no, I 

Susi Vine: love it. I love it. So yeah, we’ll have that link in the show notes. You can connect with Sue that way. Get this amazing resource. The get rid of negative thoughts in three steps are simply untreasured.

It, wouldn’t it be nice to live life, life a little less triggered? I think we’ve all been on edge lately. Being enthusiastic nods here in our virtual studio all around

and start really charting, you know, the, the energy. To come back to that, the emotion, the, the future that we want to be stepping into, instead of always being on defense and worry, you know, we can really start to root that out of our energetic field and stop writing it into our story. 

Sue Wilhite: Yes, absolutely. 

Susi Vine: I love it.

I love it. Thank you so much. This has been extraordinary. Is there anything else we didn’t get a chance to cover? We’ve covered a lot of. 

Sue Wilhite: That’s a lot to take in. It’s a lot. It’s a lot. I think we need to stop there for today. You want me to come back and expand on anything? I’m certainly happy to do that.

Susi Vine: Beautiful. And, and through connecting with you and picking up this gift that will have the link they can learn about other events and ways to work with you. If you have those available coming up. Yeah. Marvel. Wonderful. Sue, thank you so much for joining me today for exploring a whole new avenue of conversation here on the show.

This has been a ton of 

Sue Wilhite: fun. Yes, absolutely. 

Susi Vine: Wonderful. Wishing you well, hope you have a marvelous rest of your day. And I look forward to talking with you again 

Sue Wilhite: soon. Absolutely. I hope so. Take care.