Susi Vine wants you to know that you don’t just need more tools to “calm down.” Discover why feeling dysregulated is not a weakness and shouldn’t be bypassed with false positivity or nervous system tools in order to avoid overwhelming emotions. Beneficial stress can strengthen resilience, and emotions carry meaningful signals about boundaries, safety, and unmet needs. She explains sympathetic versus parasympathetic states, noting that chronic stress can keep people stuck in survival mode. Learning how to properly regulate your nervous system fosters resilience and helps you meet and overcome any challenge, while trying to numb feelings like fear, anger, and sadness also dampens joy, creativity and connection.
Susi guides a short exercise inviting you to tune into the messages your body and emotions are trying to share, so you can more effectively complete the stress cycle, recover faster and build confidence in your ability to recover and return to yourself.
Inside this episode:
- 00:57 Why Dysregulation Matters
- 03:16 Dysregulation is Not Bad
- 04:25 Stress as a Signal
- 05:31 From Victim to Resilience
- 07:40 How Nervous System Regulation Works
- 10:06 Flexibility Over Calm
- 11:20 Emotions Need Listening
- 12:15 Hormesis and Growth
- 13:57 Moving beyond Trauma
- 15:49 Numbing Kills Joy
- 17:45 Regulate or Escape
- 19:30 Three Step Process
- 22:08 Complete the Stress Cycle
- 24:49 Recovery Fosters Resilience
- 26:27 Reflection Exercise
- 29:22 Closing and Support
Resources mentioned in the episode:
- Explore the Spectrum of Emotion, with Yale’s “Mood Meter”
- Completing the Stress Cycle: Interview with Author Amelia Nagoski
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